Kingdom Marriage Series: Episode Three

  

Holla, people! How are you doing? Happy weekend. 

If you had a rough week like I did, it's time to unwind and rest very well. Don't worry about the work you left behind, you'll get back to it after resting. Work nor dey kuku finish. Ensure you prioritize your rest this weekend and do it guilt-free, the work will be fine.

So, it's episode three of the Kingdom Marriage Series. We had episode one on Thursday, and episode two yesterday. Today, I bring you another amazing couple who have been gracious enough to share their journey with us. 

You know how we roll here, right? Get your pen, jotter and popcorn and enjoy! Let's get right into it.

Nancita: Please introduce yourselves.

Mr: Hello, I am Olusegun Adewale Olupona. I am a Business owner, and I have been married for 9 months.

Mrs: Hi, I am Elizabeth Olupona,  I am a professional photographer and a Business Administrator. I have been married for 9 months. 

Nancita: How did you meet?

Both: We met at NYSC camp in Nassarawa.

Nancita: Was he/she your spec at first sight?

Mr: Yes, she was my spec at first sight.

Mrs: No, he wasn't my spec at first sight.

Nancita: What are the non-negotiable qualities you found in your spouse?

Mr: My non-negotiable quality is respect.

Mrs: Mine is mutual respect, support, and shared goals for the future. 

Nancita: What does a kingdom marriage mean to you?

Mr: Kingdom marriage is a marriage that abides by God's law. It means doing marriage God's way.

Mrs: Kingdom marriage is a covenant union between a man and a woman who commit themselves to function in unison under divine authority in order to replicate God's image through their individual and joint callings. 

Nancita: What is your view about God's will in marriage?

Mr: God's will in marriage is for believers to marry believers and to honor God in our marriage. 

Mrs: God created marriage and He wants us to marry Christians with Godly characters and also for us to multiply.

Nancita: How did you become convinced that you made the right choice?

Mr: The respect I found in her during our courtship is still the same even after our wedding. Nothing has changed and I love the passion she has for the things of God. 

Mrs: I prayed about it, and I had peace. 

Nancita: How did you prepare for marriage, and when did you start?

Mr: I was naturally ready for marriage, and it happened according to the will of God.

Mrs: My mom made us pray about everything when we were growing up, and marriage was included. I read a lot of Christian books on marriage, and I followed Pastor Kingsley and Pastor Mildred's teachings on relationships/marriage. It played a very important role in my preparation for marriage.

Nancita: Mr. Olusegun, how did you ask her to be your girlfriend/wife?

Mr: A few months after we concluded our NYSC program, I asked her to marry me (it was a private proposal because I know she didn't want a public proposal) 

Nancita: Mrs. Elizabeth, how did you respond? Were you surprised, or did you see it coming?

I saw it coming and I said yes joyfully.

Nancita: How long did you court? Describe your courtship. Did you have misunderstandings during courtship? 

Both: We courted for a year and a half. It was amazing. I got to know more about her. 

Nancita: How did you resolve them?

Yes, we had misunderstandings and we decided to settle it between us. No third party was involved, and with the help of God, we are here now.

Nancita: Do you encourage pre-marriage counseling?

Both: Yes we do 

Nancita: What resources do you recommend for courtship and marriage preparation?

Both: We recommend reading Christian books on marriage, and also you can follow great teachers of the word who teach on marriage e.g., Pastor Kingsley and Pastor Mildred Okonkwo.

Nancita: What kind of wedding did you have? Was it your dream wedding?

Mr: We had a civil and a traditional wedding. It was my dream wedding.

Mrs: We had a civil and a traditional wedding. Well, I won't really say it was 100% my dream wedding. But I thank God for it.

Nancita: How has married life been?

Mr: Just as expected. There will always be ups and downs, but it hasn't gone beyond our capacity. God has been faithful. I am happily married.

Mrs: It has been great and I thank God for it. God has helped us since the beginning of the journey. You know as humans, we face challenges. But we overcome with the help of God. God has always been with us.

Nancita: What was your greatest culture shock?

Mr: Realizing that I have to rush home to my wife even when I'm still busy because I don't want her to be lonely at home. Staying out late had to stop.

Mrs: Thinking about what to cook every day can be so exhausting. It wasn't like that before I got married 😂😂😂

Nancita: What got better when you got married?

Mr: My financial life got better, in fact life got better generally when I got married.

Mrs: My business got better and my spiritual life got better when I got married.

Nancita: What do you enjoy doing together the most?

Both: We enjoy eating and praying together.

Nancita: Do you miss being single? If yes, what do you miss?

Mr: I don't miss being single.

Mrs: Well, I won't use the word miss. But then I had to stop certain things since I got married. So I miss those things but not being single.

Nancita: What is your advice for singles and intending couples?  

Mrs: Do not rush. It is not too late to start praying about marriage. Do not feel pressured because you see your "mates" getting married. Build your relationship with God, read books on marriage, and follow great teachers of the word. Go out, have fun (good fun), dress well, and don't look down on anyone. Meet good people and invest in yourself.

Thank you so much, Mr. and Mrs. Olusegun and Elizabeth Olupona.

There you have it, guys. I hope you learnt a thing or ten. Tomorrow's episode will be published in a bit. Stay tuned and remember to rest well this weekend.

Love and Light,

Nancita✨