Kingdom Marriage Series: Episode Seven

Hi, guys. How have you been?

It's the seventh day of the month, and I bring you another episode of the Kingdom Marriage Series. I hope you're learning from it. Yesterday's episode was all shades of amazing. The couple shared a lot, and I enjoyed publishing their story.

Today, we have another couple share their story. Enjoy!

Nancita: Please introduce yourselves. 

Mr: I'm Otugene Benjamin.

Mrs: I'm Otugene Blessing.

We've been married for 3 years.

Nancita: How did you meet?

Mr: We lived in the same area at some point. I was a student then, doing my Masters.

Mrs: We met in the same area as students.

Nancita: Was he/she your spec at first sight?

Mr: No.

Mrs: No.

Nancita: What are the non-negotiable qualities you found in your spouse?

Mr: Friendship, honesty, love for God.

Mrs: Openness, guileless love for God.

Nancita: What does a kingdom marriage mean to you?

Mr: A kingdom marriage honors the King and advances the course of His kingdom.

Mrs: A kingdom marriage is patterned after Christ, i.e., making Christ the center of my home.

Nancita: How did you become convinced that you made the right choice?

Mr: God spoke to me through the word of God.

Mrs: I heard God clearly before he asked me out, but I took it for granted.

Nancita: How did you prepare for marriage, and when did you start?

Mr: I followed counsel, prayed, and read books.

Mrs: I prayed and read books.

Nancita: Mr. Benjamin, how did you ask her to be your girlfriend/wife?

We were just friends, and it matured into marriage.

Nancita: Mrs. Blessing, how did you respond? Were you surprised, or did you see it coming?

I saw it coming.

Nancita: How long did you court? Describe your courtship. Did you have misunderstandings during courtship? 

Mr: We courted for two and half years. It was a long-distance courtship. Yes, we had misunderstandings.

Mrs: We courted for two and half years. Yes, we had misunderstandings.

Nancita: How did you resolve them? 

Mr: We resolve them through prayer and by consulting the word of God.

Mrs: Through prayer and the word of God.

Nancita: What was the role of your local assembly in your courtship?

Mr: They counseled us before marriage.

Mrs: Their role was to counsel us before marriage.

Nancita: Do you encourage pre-marriage counseling?

Mr: Yes.

Mrs: Yes.

Nancita: What resources do you recommend for courtship and marriage preparation?

Mr: I recommend books on marriage.

Mrs: Some books I read are Understanding the Power and Purpose of Man by Myles Munroe, Understanding the Power and Purpose of Woman by Myles Munroe, God is a Matchmaker by Derek Prince, and 50 Days of Prosperity by Kenneth Copland. This particular book is about finance. He explained how he and his wife agreed concerning their finance.

Nancita: What kind of wedding did you have?

Both: We had a traditional and church wedding.

Nancita: How has married life been?

Both: It has been awesome.

Nancita: What was your greatest culture shock?

Both: Nil

Nancita: What got better when you got married?

Mr: We understand each other better now.

Mrs: love language

Nancita: What do you enjoy doing together the most?

Both: We enjoy praying, studying the word of God, and gisting.

Nancita: Do you miss being single? If yes, what do you miss?

Both: No

Nancita: What does love and submission mean to you?

Mr: I believe that it means surrendering yourself.

Mrs: I believe it means giving all and the best of yourself.

Nancita: How do you navigate challenges?

Both: We hand it over to God, and He always comes through.

Nancita: What is your advice for singles and intending couples?

Mr: Singles, love God first so He'll send you the one that will love you forever. Intending couples, make God the primary aim of your home.

Mrs: Singles, wait for your time. Good marriages still exist. Intending couples, make God the foundation of your relationship and, above all, put God first.

Thank you for reading. Watch out for episode eight.

Love and Light,

Nancita 💕