Kingdom Marriage Series: Episode Ten

Hi, guys. How do you do? 

I'm back again with another exciting episode for you. Hope you've read the previous episode?

Today, this amazing couple gave us a whole sermon. Get your pen and journal and learn all you can.

Ready? Let's go!

Nancita: Please introduce yourselves. 

Mr: I'm ADENIYAN, Oluwaseun. 

Mrs:  My name is Toluwani Adeniyan. I am a child of God, a fashion designer and enthusiast. We've been married for 1 year, 5 months, 23days.  

Nancita: How did you meet?

Mr: We met in church, serving God and his purposes together. We served together in the Youth Fellowship as leaders, became friends and members of the church prayer group, and the rest, they say, is history. 😂

Mrs: We met in church. He was our singles coordinator.

Nancita: Was he/she your spec at first sight?

Mr:  Yes 💯

Mrs: His intelligence, yes! That was what caught my attention.

Nancita: What are the non-negotiable qualities you found in your spouse?

Mr: The fear of God and her love for God & His works.

Mrs: He is a lover of God God, and he is intelligent.

Nancita: What does a kingdom marriage mean to you?

Mr: A kingdom marriage is one that's birthed by God's leading to fulfil God's intention and raise godly seeds. It's a Christ-centered marriage.

Mrs: A kingdom marriage is a three-fold cord that can't be broken; God, him and her.

Nancita: What is your view about God's will in marriage?

Mr: God's will in marriage is God bringing two individuals together beyond race, tribe, colour, and tradition to fulfil God's intention. In other words, God brings his son and daughter with an aligning vision, complementing their individual assignments.

Mrs: It's not a myth. God is still interested in leading and guiding HIS beloved. 

Nancita: I like that you mentioned it's beyond race, tribe, colour, and tradition. So tell us how you became convinced that you made the right choice.

Mr: God started showing me in the place of prayer almost everything about her that she never told anyone.

Mrs: I knew what God gives, just has to be right!

Nancita: How did you prepare for marriage, and when did you start?

Mr: We prepared by submitting to thorough counselling, which started 6 months into our courtship.

Mrs: Aside from the counselling in church, we read books, shared videos and audios on marriage with ourselves.

Nancita: Sir, how did you ask her to be your girlfriend/wife? 

I can’t remember. 

Nancita: I know you'll remember, ma. How did you respond? Were you surprised, or did you see it coming?

We were friends for a while, so yes! I saw it coming.

Nancita: How long did you court? Describe your courtship. 

Mr: We courted for 1 year, 1 month! It was intentional, driven by the desire to be a godly example to people around us.

Mrs: A year and a month. 

Nancita: Did you have misunderstandings during courtship? 

Mr: Misunderstanding? Of course we had misunderstanding. 

Mrs: Yes! A lot sef.

Nancita: So how did you resolve them? 

Mr: Communication.

Mrs: My husband is loud on communication, so we talk!

Nancita: What was the role of your local assembly in your courtship?

Mr: Our Pastor was involved from the beginning till the end. It was not hide and seek.

Mrs: My husband told our pastor of his marital intention towards me, and he (the pastor) asked me to prayerfully decide. He was also our first counsellor,

Nancita: Do you encourage pre-marriage counselling?

Mr: Yes!

Mrs: Yes! Premarital counselling is very important; it shouldn't be rushed, and it shouldn't be skipped.

Nancita: What resources do you recommend for courtship and marriage preparation?

Mr: RCCG Pre-marital Counselling handbook and materials from Pastors Kingsley and Mildred Okonkwo.

Mrs: RCCG Premarital counselling manual and Pastor Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo YouTube channels.

Nancita: What kind of wedding did you have? Was it your dream wedding?

Mr: Yes! At the level that I was at the time.

Mrs: My "dream wedding" will be to see my parents and siblings smile proudly and my husband rejoicing and dancing.

 I got them and more.

Nancita: How has married life been?

Mr: Married life has been beautiful and adventurous.

Mrs: It's a fantastic journey, a journey of faith, of friendship, of intimacy.

Nancita: What was your greatest culture shock?

Mr: Hmm! I am not sure there is any I can remember. There weren't really surprises for me.

Mrs: I can't think of any right now.

Nancita: What got better when you got married?

Mr: My Communication, my eating and sleeping habits and maybe my cooking skills in the future.😂

Mrs: I got better at communication. I will usually internalize things until they make sense to me, and it might take weeks. But I'm better at communicating them now.

Nancita: What do you enjoy doing together the most?

Mr: Gisting and doing the work of the ministry.

Mrs: Praying.

Nancita: Do you miss being single? If yes, what do you miss?

Mr: Hmm! I miss watching Arsenal Football Club at any time that I want to. 😂

Mrs: Yes, ooo. I miss travelling. I used to travel a lot.

Nancita: What does love and submission mean to you?

Mr: Love means Sacrifice! Submission means Humility!

Mrs: Loving Christ has its standard; a man is to love his wife as Christ loves the church. Submission has the church as its standard, as the church submits to Christ, so a woman must submit to her own husband.

Nancita: How do you navigate challenges?

Mr: By praying and communicating effectively without making assumptions.

Mrs: The LORD is our shepherd. He leads us, guides us, and ensures we have a safe landing.

Nancita: What is your advice for singles and intending couples?

Mr: Singles, never forget that God still leads His children in marriage. He still gives the best.

Mrs: When you take your eyes (focus) off the marriages that are not working and study God's original intention for marriage, you will know a blissful marriage is possible.

Thank you so much, sir and ma. 

Dear readers, I told you it was a whole sermon. I hope you had a great time learning from their story? I'll be back tomorrow with another interesting episode. Stay tuned.

Love and Light,

Nancita ✨