Marriage and Driving

Hi guys, long time no post, right? 

No vex, jhoor.  Life has been happening and this space had to take a back seat for a while. 

I'm here now. Where did we stop? 

So I was somewhere one time and this argument or discussion about marriage came up between two people. One of the people said marriage is not compulsory, which I agree with. Then he went ahead to say things about the marriage institution that got me nearly infuriated. 

I was still quiet though until he said: "thank God I have just boys, I'll tell them to do open marriage or have baby mamas, no need for marriage".

I can't say for sure if he was serious about this statement or just playing around, but my quietness about the whole discussion came to an end. I had to speak up. 

Then I told him there's nothing wrong with the marriage institution, which is true. I'm sick and tired of people making it sound like marriage is the problem. From the beginning, it never was, and never will be. 

Now, imagine you give a madman a car to drive and he crashes it, which you should expect, will you conclude that driving is bad? Or driving a certain kind of car is bad? Or driving on a certain road is bad? No no no. Why? Cos the issue is the person that drove the car, not the car, the road, or even the time it was driven.

It's the same as marriage. Nothing is wrong with the institution (driving) or the car (the person's tribe) 

Everything wrong with a bad marriage has to do with the people in it (the mad people) just like everything right about a good marriage has to do with the people in it also.

Marriage is honorable in all. Marriage is a good thing. But don't give a mad person a marriage to run. He'll crash it. 

Like Myles Munroe said: two rotten eggs will always give you a rotten omelet. 

Marriage, like any other institution or area of life, is run by principles. And these principles are already in the Bible, so what else do we need?

Even if there are bad roads (challenges in life) a sane driver will always arrive safely if he drives well. 

Same as in marriage. First, marry a sane person and see if you'll not have a smooth ride. 

Marriage is not for mad people. They'll definitely crash it. I said what I said.

It's not about their age or educational qualification. It's about learning about marriage and learning well. Not just from peoples' experiences and opinions, but from the word of God.

People learn about driving, then they learn to drive. Then they practice well and learn different road networks. They even use Google map to help with location and pride themselves as being good drivers at the end of the day. 

Notice the principles there. They learned, practiced, and got help. But these same people don't learn about marriage, they don't practice love enough or get help when they need it, but they expect their cars not to crash. Na lie. 

I trust that you're not like them sha. So the next time someone says something wrong about this honorable institution designed by God Himself, I hope you don't keep quiet. I hope you defend this beautiful institution. And I hope that you're preparing right for your marriage or driving well if you're already married. Amen. 

Speaking of marriage, guess who got married to the absolute love of her life some six Tuesdays ago? 

MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's the major reason this space was deserted. From planning the wedding, shopping, preparing, relocating, settling down, and honeymooning, I had no time to post here. 

But I'm back now (Amen). And I'm sure I've been forgiven.😉 Thank you.😘

Love and Light 

Nancita✨