Chronicles of Teacher Nan (3)

Hi guys, welcome here. How do you do?

Today, I write about something that breaks my heart, literally. In this season as a youth corper, teaching has exposed me to the enormous defect in parenting and family life. It's a lot!

Sometimes I feel like there should be a license to permit childbearing, honestly. Because it might not sound good, but it's the truth. Good parenting is a big deal and not everyone can do so.

My heart just breaks when I see some character displayed by students...like, do you have an actual family? Because what's this rubbish behavior??

Corper Nan has seen a lot, tbh. 😭 

From disrespect, rudeness, gross misconduct, and devilish character to parents who don't even know their children.

When I speak against it, I mostly hear some teachers say: that's how it is in other schools, children are now rude, blah blah. I have never agreed to that, and I never will.

We've had parents come to defend their children, in the name of; 'my son is not like that'

Excuse me ma, which son? Mtcheeew...

Woh, parents and upcoming parents, can we pledge to do better??

"Train up a child in the way he should go..."

If not for anything, because it's a command.

I spent the weekend at a friend's place and as our gist tilted towards parenting and family, we couldn't agree better, that a large percentage of great people today had parents that put in the work. 

I read biographies and autobiographies sometimes, together with active stalking on social media, and there's hardly a success story without reference to their parents or guardians. 

Parenting is a big deal. God is trusting you with His heritage and you want to joke with their destiny...

Are you for real?

Again, I ask, can we pledge to do better??

May God help us.

Parents, uncles, aunties, older cousins, and everyone with sound character and the fear of God, this is a wake-up call to us. 

Emphasis on sound character and the fear of God...cos I know there are evil people.

But it still takes a village to raise a child…

So on this particular day, a student had misbehaved the previous day and a teacher slapped him. Next thing, his mom and brother were in school the next day fighting the teacher. And this was on the assembly ground o. I was just irritated. What rubbish! Is this how we'll raise leaders of tomorrow? I doubt it. 

Parents and upcoming parents, please shine your eyes o. The devil is not sleeping on this. It's one of his tricks. Don't be too woke or civilized to impact discipline. "Spare the rod…"

Rev Funke Felix Adejumo has a sermon on that sef. Search for Vigilant Parenting on YouTube. You're welcome. 

Now I know that not all bad character can be attributed to poor parenting. Some parents do well but the results don't show. But I believe with prayer, skills, and wisdom, we can win at this thing. It is something to prepare for and learn continuously for. Pregnancy might happen unplanned, but parenting should be planned for. 

Plan to teach your children, plan to discipline them, commend them, encourage them, show them, love, etc. Plan to build them up. Don't leave it to chance or their teachers. They spend more time with you at home than they do in school. 

Teachers can only continue what you've started, we can't do the work for you. Help us to help you, please. 

You must invest in it, there are books, courses and all that can help you. I hear that James Dobson is really good in this area, I have one of his books but haven't read it yet. But I've read reviews about his parenting books and I'll read them soonest.

In addition to doing this parenting thing well, we must also advocate for good parenting. Cos your good children will go to school and meet other children. Peer pressure is a thing. 

I've seen seemingly good children come to school and forget their identity/background, simply because they met 'friends' that do not have the same values.

No parent is perfect, but you can do the work and do the work well.

It is well. 

Love and light

Nancita✨